Teenage Stress

Teenage stress can be divided into two major modes of stress. Social stress which is the stress and pressure we feel from family, friends and acquaintances and inward stress; how we feel about ourselves, how do we deal with external pressure, and who do we want to please.

From the time we are conceived, society tries to mold us. No wonder there is so much One of the things adults don't realize is that they have been molded much longer, have conformed for decades and may not have formed the most freeing, joyful, peaceful and creative beliefs. Don't be afraid to choose your own beliefs based on the fact that you are created powerful, confident and constructive.

Kids and teens are not given enough credit. If teens could learn certain skills while in school, they can avoid many of the pitfalls their parents succumbed to. Kids and teens naturally want to follow their dreams. Society pressures people to choose a career based on income, security, or even prestige. Teenage stress will continue to rise until teens are taught to be confident in their dreams and abilities. How to deal with stress is the same for teenage stress as it is for adults: find out what you love, and do it to the best of your ability.

Once you find out what you love to do, and this may change regularly as you grow and expand on your journey to freedom, joy and creativity, go for it and stress will melt away! Do this by making a conscious decision to follow your dreams. Write it down, look at it every day, tell others about your dreams.

Hold fast to dreams
For if dreams die
Life is a broken-winged bird
That cannot fly.
Hold fast to dreams
For when dreams go
Life is a barren field
Frozen with snow.

Langston Hughes

Every human being should know they were created with the power to create the most amazing, successful life imaginable. You do not have to follow in anybody footsteps but your own. You are creative, resourceful and whole. You have all the tools you need for phenomenal success and joy. Teenage stress will be greatly reduced if adults would encourage kids to go out and create what they were born to create! Remember, you always get to choose when to follow and when to create your own way.

It is always your choice to follow the crowd, follow the majority or ask for wisdom to know which path leads you to joy, creativity and freedom! If you follow your own path, you will have more confidence, and confidence is sexy, cool, and desirable.

Now we will deal with the inward stress of how we view ourselves.

We always have a choice in how we view ourselves.

There are always two choices with inward stress. We can choose to love ourselves or choose not to love ourselves. We all know great looking people who hate themselves, and we know less good looking kids who love themselves and are the life of the party.

This proves:
• How we see ourselves is a choice.
• What choice have we made?
• Do we want to make a new choice?

Whether or not we choose to love ourselves has nothing to do with looks, brains, athletic or musical abilities. It is a simple choice. The magnificent truth of who you are is stunning. It doesn’t matter if our parents love themselves, if our siblings love themselves or if our friends love themselves. We get to choose what is best for us.

• We can choose confidence.
There isn’t much that is sexier than confidence. Sure there are a few folks out there who like to be the hero for needy people, but simple confidence is a turn on. Don’t hesitate and say I can never project confidence. Whatever we say we get. Why not make better choices? We can take a baby step and decide to give confidence a try…that is more powerful than ruling it out!

• Give confidence a try!
What does confidence look like? It can look like I’m scared, but I’m going to try anyways. It can mean, I don’t have enough information, but I have confidence to ask for what I need.
It also means we get to decide what failure looks like. Failure can mean we didn’t try this time. But success is trying regardless of the outcome. Failure can mean we didn’t choose to get enough information this time. Failure is simply an opportunity to learn what didn’t work. Confidence is trying again.

• Choose to learn to laugh at yourself.
The wonderful part of being a teen is to say Whatever! Then mean it! If we learn to say ‘whatever’ instead of taking things personally and making assumptions, we will live a much happier, more successful life. Remember there are always examples to follow. We all know kids who let stuff roll right off their backs! Learn from those kids. Make choices to not take things personally or to make assumptions. Choose to create your own joyful path to freedom, creativity and success!

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